How to be a good friend
Listening to others’ personalities Kosuke Matsushita said, “After the hard work is affirmed, the gratitude revealed is unparalleled joy.
“Praise is one of the most charismatic ways of working in leadership. It is an excellent way to move people’s hearts, stimulate their emotions, and encourage their enthusiasm.
An entrepreneur who was discovered and reused by the American steel king Carnegie said: “I’m lucky that there is an ability to arouse people’s enthusiasm. This is my only strength.
The only effective way to keep people in the best state of their talents is praise and encouragement.
No one is more inclined to kill people than to be criticized by their superiors.
I never criticize people, and encourage people to consciously play his role.
I applaud my subordinates for never being embarrassed, but criticize and blame very stingily.
As long as I think something is outstanding, I will sincerely praise it and give all praise.
“His words are a bit absolute, but he has the ability to arouse people’s enthusiasm, which should be learned as a female leader.
In actual work, women leaders must use various forms to expand the content and scope of praise and enhance the effect of praise.
The key is that women must do it consciously.
This is how human inertia is. People don’t think seriously about things that they take for granted.
Praise is great and effective.
(1) Praise is a catalyst.
For any organization to promote the progress of its work, it must mobilize the enthusiasm for competition.
Naturally, the so-called competition is not necessarily tangible, external, and important is internal consciousness.
To mobilize people’s enthusiasm for competition, we must use this method of praise.
To all those who have progressed and contributed, even in a small way, have a great contribution.
Sincerely offer your dialysis language, positive evaluation, and sincere encouragement.
This urges people to want to hear praise again.
(2) Praise can strengthen one’s strengths.
Everyone has their own advantages and specialties.
Leaders praise, this kind of positive reinforcement can enable people to strengthen their superior motivation and play the role of strengths and avoid weaknesses.
(3) Praise can make a person’s accidental behavior into a lasting action.
People’s own strengths and specialties, including many specific subtle strengths and characteristics, are not very clear, and some advantages, specialties may still be in their infancy.
Leaders affirm this once they find it.
The attendant prompts the other side to increase its advantage and expand its role.
Intensified through repeated praise.
The external behavior of a person becomes an internal quality, which results in lasting action.
(4) Praise has an evaluation role.
It enables courageous people to gather courage, makes hesitant to determine direction, enables blind people to find targets, makes weak people insist on will, and mature people strengthen themselves.
Here, the appraisal function of praise requires leaders to put the emphasis of praise on the different characteristics of the different conditions of the praise object.
(5) Praise is a stimulant.
It inspires people’s internal motivation and stimulates people’s internal motivation.
Enhance one’s own vitality.
This is a good form of transformation from external power to internal power. (6) Praise can lead to good leadership.
Praise this often.
Will create an active niche.
Individuals are diffuse and develop vertically, and collectives are convergent.
Appropriately humble “I am a very affectionate person.
My personality is not steady enough and I often make mistakes.
It is a headache, please give me a lot of advice.
“This is a self-introduction written by a female white-collar worker in a company briefing.
Of course, she wasn’t really that bad.
In real life, she is actually a frank, energetic, and cute girl.
If you stop working with her, you will surely understand why she introduced herself this way.
It’s all because she’s humble and not deeply involved in the world.
Indeed, keeping a low profile among a group of women or colleagues is always more welcome than a high profile.
But this kind of self-introduction that disparages oneself is still not good.
Because you really work with you, not many people know your character.
And most people inherit your words to understand you.
If you deliberately give these people a bad impression right from the start, then it will take a long time to replace those people’s perceptions of you.
If one is too humble, he is telling others, “I don’t want to do the chores that I have to take responsibility for.
“If you mess up, please forgive me.
“This must be the behavior of a spoiled person.
Even if you don’t tell others that you are not mature enough, you will know you if you have worked with you for a long time.
Therefore, from the beginning, you should constantly highlight others: “Although I’m not mature enough, I will definitely work harder.
“In the job, people who self-proclaimed” I will do this and that will do it “will be replaced.
However, most women lack the confidence they deserve.
They always think that they are nothing great and not mature enough.
Oriental women have been educated from a young age to be less confident. Humble and unconfident women are pitiful. However, women who are full of confidence, dare to compete, and aggressive are annoying.
Therefore, women feel humble.
Over time, it becomes a habit.
This humility is not a virtue.
If your ability is expected, then even if you are very humble, people will think you are a noble character.
If a woman doesn’t know her strength yet, she will look humble and tame.
The result can only be looked down upon.
If you tell a man that you will not do anything, there are really many men who believe it.
Although you don’t have to sell melon and pride yourself, you should have a little self-confidence when introducing yourself.
The old saying goes well: “Let’s go a long way.”As long as you climb one more floor, you can see things you didn’t see.
When you are promoted to the section chief, you will see things you did not see when you were a clerk.
When you rise to the head of the division, you will also see things you did not see when you were a section chief.
Women should be ambitious and don’t stick to the frame of ordinary staff.
If you also have the ambition “If I were a minister, I would do this” and look around, your opinions will naturally be different.
But all this depends on whether the company has a personnel system that does not discriminate against women.
If the company did not intend to give women the opportunity to advance, then it is understandable that female employees are stuck in the frame of ordinary employees.
: It is an insincere behavior for others to open themselves and conceal their feelings, which is not allowed by social principles.
The so-called sincerity refers to helping others sincerely and not deceiving others for personal gain in society.
This is the basic principle of social.
Manipulating one’s emotions is not contrary to the above purpose.
It may be to help others, it may be to maintain and develop normal contacts, or it may just be to protect yourself from damage.
Although people who are not sincere must hide their emotions, in turn, manipulating their emotions is not necessarily dishonest. The key is whether the motivation is good.
An interaction object.
It is impossible to be consistent with your attitude in all aspects.
For certain things, they may have different views on each other. Is it true that you have to show this alternative emotion?
You are better at restraining something, because “alternation” is inevitable.
Not to mention many other places.
Generally not relevant.
If you want to interact with all kinds of people, then you better learn a variety of behaviors.
For most people, their social expectations are mainly for someone, then you should learn a certain behavior that some people prefer.
To do this, you must first observe carefully, then analyze, summarize, become some kind of general sign, and then train your behavior according to this aspect.
Analyzing and judging others and analyzing and judging themselves are two mutually reinforcing aspects.
I know myself through the judgment of others, instead I rely on my inner activities, behavioral performance and emotional state to know myself.
In the process of getting to know yourself.
Knowledge of others will also improve.
The purpose of analysing yourself is to understand your own needs, understand your type, understand that you are easy to exchange feelings in some aspects, understand your own abilities and help others.
Know your opponents and more.
Because these are the basic factors of social activities.
The difficulty lies in one’s own needs, and a certain state is not his ability.
Sometimes their own things will be misguided.
For example, in youth.
Our heart always wants to find someone to tell, but we don’t want to talk to our parents, because in our subconscious we think our parents are too shy to understand us.
In fact, the fundamental reason is that the youth’s independent consciousness is enhanced, and some subconsciously require certain families to go to society.
Therefore, the analysis of oneself can not only rely on one’s own consciousness, but also someone else’s evaluation of oneself.
On the emotional side, when we become interested in something, we pay more attention.
E.g.Someone makes themselves happy or unhappy, some language impresses themselves, and so on.
By accumulating these behaviors and emotions, you can roughly analyze whether you can wait for others, whether you are sincere, have some form of social expectations, hope that others are sure of themselves, etc.
In short, it is to understand your true situation through various communication channels.
When we understand our situation, we should make ourselves better through the efforts of the will and the adjustment of consciousness.
Remember: open yourself first, you can successfully open others.
Listening to sincerity and learning to listen, even if the other person is a lame personality, you can also learn something useful from his personality.
Relevant survey statistics show that only about 10% of people are good at calmly and purposefully listening to each other’s personality.
How can you learn to listen?
Those who are interested may wish to train from the following aspects.
(1) Must be proactive.
It means to recognize the feelings and opinions of the other party, and actively work hard to listen.
Get to know (2) the other person and ask if you don’t understand.
We often meet certain people.
When others are talking, he is thinking what to say below him.
Others answered unanswered questions.
Do you know that he is not listening to you at all, your words are just earwinds to him, or even interfere with your speaking, of course you will not leave a good impression on him.
(3) Let people finish talking.
Try to control yourself and don’t interrupt each other.
Sometimes, uniqueness is not something that can be grasped at once (4). The other party should have time to finish the conversation without any hassle. Instead of making a short pause for the other party to clarify their ideas, don’t interrupt the other party’s wordsSo as not to affect his thinking.
(5) Don’t be in a hurry and don’t rush to evaluate the other party’s views.
A good interlocutor should try to understand the personality of the other person and fully grasp what he means.
(6) Caring, understanding and accepting each other.
Encourage him or help him find a solution.
This attitude will work if it is sincere and not false.
(7) Listen attentively, don’t make small movements, don’t be distracted.
From time to time, when you are talking, you look at the car that seems to be shifting back from the window appearance, or you just look down and trim your nails yourself.
Or impatient expressions, these are impolite and will make the other person disgusted with you.
(8) Don’t mind the characteristics of others’ speech.
Some people blink when they talk.
Some people like to use mantras when they speak, and some people like to dance.
So you don’t need to mind.
Don’t distract yourself.
You should focus on the content of the other person’s personality.
Learn as much as possible from each other’s personality and enrich your knowledge and experience.
(9) Pay attention to feedback.
Listen to the personality of others to pay attention to information feedback.
Check in time to see if you know each other.
You might as well say: “I don’t know if I understand you.What do you mean . “Once you know what you know about him, go for positive and practical help and advice.
(10) Grasp the main meaning.
Don’t be attracted by individual details.
People who are good at listening understand that analyzing some content is primary and some are secondary, so they can grasp the main meaning behind the facts and avoid misunderstandings.
(11) Adapt the speed of thinking to your personality.
The speed of thinking is usually two or three times faster than the speed of speech, so when we listen, the brain must work hard and be diligent in thinking and analyzing.
If you are absent-minded and mindless when others are in your personality, you ca n’t remember the content of others ‘words, and you have to talk again and again, it looks unpleasant.
(12) Don’t always want to occupy the unit, as if you know everything.
Only you can inspire others.
Self-righteous people are often least likely to listen to the personality of others.